After many years in litigation it became apparent to me that there was never any real winner after the Judge's final order. A large amount of money, time, effort, frustration, stress, and bad feelings were spent in an attempt to make a party feel "heard", and in the end it was rare that anyone ever felt vindicated, but rather exhausted and defeated. In my search for a better way, I came across collaborative practice and had my "aha" moment. Collaborative practice allows parties to attempt to resolve the conflict without resorting to litigation, but resulting in a settlement that will meet the respective party's needs. By working together to try to create an outcome that all can agree upon rather than taking the win or lose approach in court, the process itself allows everyone involved to have a voice and feel heard.